With my days dwindling down to a little less than three
weeks in LA, I think it is only natural to write a blog post about how I
changed during this year or what I’m going to take away from my year of
volunteering. After all, the expected “cookie cutter Christian,” thing to do
would be to blog about “the top 10 things I learned this year,” however I am
not a “cookie cutter Christian.” In essence, there is nothing wrong with
blogging about how I changed over the past eleven months, because I can
definitely feel a change within me, but a huge part of me feels like it is too
soon to express what exactly that change is. I was told that it takes Dwellers
several months, maybe even years, to fully unpack and process the events they
experienced during their year of service. I deeply believe that no matter how
hard I try to explain the impact of the experiences I had during my YAV year, I
will never be able to express the beauty and insight I have encountered
throughout my YAV year. In fact, if I tried to explain or express the
importance of this transformative year to anyone, then I wouldn’t be doing my
YAV year justice, because the most important things close to our hearts are
often the most difficult to explain to people.
If a person had the opportunity to spend one Earth day in
Heaven, could that person articulate the eternal love and cosmic beauty they
experienced? If a person spent one Earth day in Hell, could that person express
the agonizing damnation they felt of their soul slowly being ripped to shreds?
The answer to both of those questions is no, intense emotions and experiences
cannot be experienced without loosing some of its intensity. That is why I
cannot express my overall experiences of my YAV year in a mere blog, because if
I did I would be loosing the meaningful impact of what this year meant to me.
Humans were meant to share experiences and stories, but sometimes their stories
are so personal and impactful that the storyteller cannot share the beauty of
their story they endured. The
experiences I had during my YAV year are mine and mine alone that is why while
many can sympathize with my stories, but none of them can really empathize with
my stories because they have not lived through it. There is nothing wrong with
this, it just means that I can’t find the final resting words for my YAV year,
because in a way I feel that my YAV year isn’t over even when I return home to
start seminary.
So then the question becomes: Why am I writing blog about my
final thoughts of this year if I just stated that I cannot find my final
thoughts on this year? Simple, it gives me peace. It gives me closure. I’ve
been through so many unique challenges this year, but despite the challenges I
am able to rise above them and have peace about this year. This peace is not
happy, nor is it sad, but it is peace in knowing that I was in and apart of the
place where God wanted me to be at the time. I was where I needed to be in this
point of my life in order for me to grow. I was challenged to find peace when I
did not feel at peace, and I was challenged to find joy when I could not feel
joy. I always knew who I was and I always knew who God was, but I was able to
deepen my relationship with myself and with God on a much intimate dimension; a
dimension that I cannot explain, but is filled with love, compassion, and
courage. After all, I am much more braver and stronger than I think I, because
I am called to be brave and strong.
Several months ago if you would have asked my to explain my
challenges, I would have explained them from a place that isn’t coming from a
place of peace and understanding, but rather from a place of grief and
resentment. While my emotions I wrestled with this year of grief and
understanding are validated, I cannot grow if I continue to be blocked by my
emotions that do not bring myself joy. I can only get so far in life if I am
dictated by resentment and not being at peace. This perspective switch I had
comes from a lot of aspects of this year. The most visible aspect to me right
now is my recent vacation to San Francisco with my parents. My brother is part
of a fraternity in Purdue that participates in the Journey of Hope (I forget
the official name.) This is a 60-day bike ride across the United States in the
summer. Typically seniors in the fraternity participate in this before they
enter the professional world or grad school, but a couple other guys are allowed
to do this bike ride their junior year. This ride is to help educate and
advocate for individuals with disabilities or challenges, so each night the
guys will help out at a local agency promoting advocacy for individuals with
disabilities.
I’m proud of my
brother for being one of the 100 or so men participating in this ride. There
are three routes that they take, one being the route out of San Francisco with
about 30 or so fraternity members. My parents and I decided to make a small
vacation out of Mark departing from San Francisco. My parents flew in Thursday
and we took Friday and Saturday to drive up the Pacific Coast Highway.
Originally we were going to push it and make the drive the PCH in one day, but
we decided to take two days so we can stop in nearby towns along the way like
Santa Barbra and Solvang. We barely had an hour Saturday before we had to meet
the group for dinner the night before their send off. Early Sunday morning was
the send off and it was much more meaningful than I expected. Not going to lie,
a lot of it had to do with the send off being at the Golden Gate Bridge and
watching the bikers bike across the bridge. Another big part of it had to do
with the realization that I probably won’t see my brother again until
Thanksgiving because he will still be biking when I move into my apartment in
Louisville.
My parents and I explored the city Sunday through Wednesday
doing the typical tourist thing; Muir Woods and wine tour, Alcatraz, Lombard,
Chinatown, etc. This vacation was so nice and much needed because I did not get
a retreat this year like I was originally promised at the start of my year. In
many ways, this vacation was the retreat that I was supposed to have. It was
definitely seeing things from a tourist perspective again; I almost had to take
a mental step back at times to process the sudden change from living in LA to
visiting San Francisco. It felt weird seeing people who were homeless without
my PATH polo on. I am not saying that I should feel ashamed or guilty for being
a tourist, but I had to be more mindful of the role I was playing. By mentally
stepping back I even realized how much knowledge I gained on social issues such
as homelessness.
In fact, on the ride over to Santa Barbra I couldn’t stop
talking about the homelessness phenomenon: about how people fall into
homelessness and the biggest struggles for them and PATH when it comes to
homelessness. I talked about patterns I see at work and why they exist (which
can be several reasons depending on who you ask.) I’m not sure if I will work
with people who are homeless in the future as a therapist (but who knows) but I
do know that my understanding and perspective on homelessness has changed based
on the amount of stuff I rambled on to my parents about. It is in that moment
of passionately talking about homelessness on my way to Santa Barbra that I
realized the way I interpret the world has changed. Being at a physical and
emotional distance from LA, I was able to see how the way I interpret the world
has changed, thus allowing me to understand that the way I see and interpret my
year in LA has changed. I can see a change, but I cannot see the details of the
change. Like I wrote earlier I know that I have changed but I still need time
to truly discover what that change is. I told Mary that before my trip to San
Francisco I was ready to leave LA, but I wouldn’t be leaving LA with a positive
mindset. After San Francisco, I can positively say that I will be leaving LA
with a positive mindset. I also told her that while I am aware that my days are
coming to a close, I am not doing a countdown. I am beyond excited to go to the
seminary of my dreams, but if I do a countdown, I will be too focused on
getting out of here instead of enjoying the time I have left. I still have to
finish up with my obligations at PATH, clean (hardcore), and say my goodbyes. I
got to let LA know what my final words are before I leave. So I may write
another blog post in the future, I may not. For now I think I’ll be too busy
wrapping things up to write another blog post.
If I don’t get the chance to write another blog post in the
future, I would like to thank everyone who has supported me financially and
emotionally of this crazy and insanely beautiful ride. Thank you all for
reading my blog posts as I navigate my thoughts and feelings about my YAV year,
despite if they make since or not. I have along way to go, but I know I am
better equipped to have the courage, empathy, and understanding to
authentically live out my stories. And you, dear readers, I encourage you to
have the courage and empathy to go forward and live out the amazing and
beautiful stories you have to show the world. After all, I’m going to need some
company when basking in the sun.
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